What is the Somatic Coaching Curriculum?
You will be introduced to a large erotic menu and identify what you would like to try. By developing your understanding of how arousal and desire work, you will be able to pass these skills and vocabulary on to your clients. You will move beyond the idea that sex should just happen – and approach sex as something to cultivate on an ongoing basis. By learning from your own transformation and trying different menu items you will learn how to help your clients do that same. You will learn to help people have a sex life that is thrilling and fulfilling.
Discover, Explore, and Understand Your Unique Sexual Template and Give the Gift of Awareness to Your Clients
The Core Training will let you dive into a process of understanding how people’s sexual desires shaped. You will find out about the 3 kinds of sex and the main ingredients that make sex hot. You will discover your specific core desires around sexuality and how to create erotic situations that satisfy those needs. The more knowledge you have about what makes sex hot, the more you can help clients in discovering their unique sexual template as well.
Emotional and Sexual Empowerment For Women
In order to become sexually empowered, women need to move beyond their negative socialization around sexuality. They need to reclaim and revitalize their emotional and erotic selves. If you are a woman, you will learn to embody your sexuality so you can feel empowered in the world and relationships. If you are a man or a woman, you will learn how to best support women in expressing their needs and feelings. Finally, you will learn about women’s psychological and physiological arousal including warm-up, the 3 pathways to women’s orgasms, and how to make them most intense.
Emotional and Sexual Empowerment for Men
To become empowered and feel more connected to their partners, men need to overcome their negative socialization around emotions. If you are a man, you will learn to accept yourself and your own, embodied desires. You will learn to walk in the world confidently – as opposed to shut down or “creepy.”
As a man or a woman, you will support men in becoming connected and sensual lovers and you will also find out how to help men have the hottest sexual experiences of their lives. Men will learn how to be true to themselves in relationships and give their partners what they really want emotionally and sexually and you will help your male clients do the same.
Turn Relationship Challenges into Opportunities for Intimacy and Teach Your Clients Step-by-Step Tools to Do the Same
One of the most important skills in maintaining long-term, emotionally, and sexually intimate relationships is the ability to handle moments of challenge, discomfort, and conflict. Beyond this, these moments can actually be pathways to deeper empathy, intimacy, and passion.
Understanding the ways you have been hurt, and helping others do the same is one step towards relationship empowerment. Via our somatic coaching method, you will explore your emotional triggers, and how to respond (as opposed to react) when something is challenging or upsetting.
Through awareness, resiliency-building, and relational tools, you will learn how to vote for connection instead of protection and how to teach your clients to do so. You will also learn relationship repair so you can spend more of your time open to love and desire. As a coach, there is almost nothing more satisfying than seeing people transforming moments of conflict into deeper love and intimacy.
Somatica has landed in my body, not just my intellect. It feels part of my flesh; something that is mine now and will always be available to me
Thank you for this incredible body of work that you have created. On the day when I was set up to offer my first full session to a total stranger, I was nervous. I felt unprepared. But when I got into the session I realized that I had been exceptionally prepared: I had everything I needed. I had a whole toolbox of things to teach and share and witness. And I found that I also had access to an embodied wisdom inside of me that knew just how and why to use them. In that moment I realized how exquisitely this training had been crafted, how much care and thought and mastery has been distilled down into this set of techniques I now have in my back pocket.
I noticed that a certain attitude had been passed down to me: an open, enthusiastic curiosity about the person in front of me, and an unguarded, playful, forgiving presence in myself. Holding such an attitude about anything is an amazing feat. But to hold it about the things so culturally clamped down upon like sex, desire, shame, emotions, old wounds, etc. is revolutionary!!! I say passed down, because, the teachings have landed in my body, not just my intellect. They feel part of my flesh; something that is mine now and will always be available to me. Teaching through embodiment really works! Not only the way you teach by leading us to physically and emotionally practice but the way you manage to make yourselves, your own living structures of experience so open to us, so visible, so palpable, so available. This is how you manage to convey the philosophy of Somatica, which is this vital substrate, the context, that allows us the wisdom to know how to choose and wield these wonderful tools that are in the toolbox. Lots of trainings give out tools. Very few give this level of embodied wisdom.
Loving you for all the hours, tears, sweat, and heart that have gone into this work. I can feel it.
Explore Embodiment and Mindfulness and Teach Your Clients These Skills
The foundation of intimacy and sexuality is mindfulness – this means learning self-awareness, awareness of others, and responsiveness to your body’s needs and messages. You first follow then lead practice clients through experiences of embodiment, breathwork, and inhibition-releasing exercises so you can more fully inhabit your body and feel your sensations, arousal, and emotions.
Clarify Boundaries and Consent
Boundaries and consent are essential to trust, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction in relationships. You will learn to identify, embrace, and share your boundaries and teach others deepen their relationship with their own boundaries. You will practice and teach others to escalate erotic experiences while gaining ongoing consent. And, you will learn and teach how to communicate all of this lovingly and effectively. Listening to others’ boundaries and finding out how they want to be asked for and give consent is an illuminating experience. Equally valuable is learning to stay connected – even when you feel rejection or disappointment. As a coach, you will feel the joy of supporting your clients in these triumphs as well.
Move Beyond Shame
Shame is a force that all of us contend within our lives. It comes up particularly strongly around sex and relationships. Exposure to it in a safe, accepting and loving container is the antidote to shame, and the Somatica Core Training offers this container. It also teaches you how to offer this safety to your clients – a safety that is essential to their growth in the intimate realm.
The somatic coaching method will help you move beyond shame and bring you more deeply into your body and your pleasure. By walking in the world from this place, and inviting your clients into your unconditional acceptance, you will experience and offer an unprecedented sense of personal freedom.
Understand Attachment and Individuation, Care for Your Inner Child
In the Somatica Method, we emphasize the balance between every person’s need for attachment (love) and individuation (acceptance). In the training, you will explore your history and patterns around attachment. You will learn how to deepen your attachment with your loved ones, and to create a healthy attachment-based relationship with your clients. You will also see how childhood hurts shaped your attachment style, and what you need to accept and love about yourself so you can feel more secure.
Your clients will need tons of guidance in this area – as balancing attachment and individuation is one of the most challenging experiences of being human. In this training, you will learn how to spot when people are over compromised or lack empathy and help them learn the boundaries and attunement skills they need to move towards the balance of being true to themselves and secure with loved ones.
Be Aware of Oppression/Privilege as They Relate to Sex and Intimacy
To connect with the vast diversity of people around you, it is essential to be aware of how power, privilege, and oppression play out in life. This is particularly apparent in sexual and intimate relationships. We will teach you how these dynamics can become part of people’s sexual desires, as well as their feelings about themselves and one another. You will become aware of your own privilege and oppression, and bring this awareness with you in your interpersonal and professional encounters.